'It was truly horrible': The breakup that blindsided Kath Ebbs, and how they've turned their heartbreak into help

EXCLUSIVE -- Internet personality Kath Ebbs has had their fair share of breakups.

The most recent played out on global television when their then-partner Jojo Siwa starred on Big Brother UK in April.

Siwa went into the show proudly talking about Ebbs, but slowly, audiences noticed something unfolding between the children's entertainer and fellow Big Brother housemate Chris Hughes.

At home, Ebbs, who uses they/them pronouns, was watching along, confident in the pair's connection, not knowing what was to come. 

"I truthfully had no idea what was going on [while watching the show live]," Ebbs told nine.com.au over Zoom.

"It felt very out of character for my relationship, the relationship that I knew. So I couldn't quite prepare for anything." 

Meanwhile, social media exploded with comments about the seemingly budding romance inside the house, with questions flying about what it meant for Siwa and Ebbs. 

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Some threw around the words 'emotional cheating', while others claimed Siwa was going to leave Ebbs for Hughes.

Ebbs was at the centre of it all, but chose to shut out the social media comments.

"I didn't consume anything ... I feel like someone like yourself would probably have more of a perception of what I should have been gearing up for than I did," they say.

"I chose to look away, I switched off all the noise and tried to stay true to what was real to me."

After the show wrapped, Ebbs famously flew to the UK to see Siwa, only to be dumped at the show's wrap party.

Ebbs admits they didn't know what to expect when they arrived at the party. 

"I wasn't preparing for it to go any sort of way," they said.

"I think that mimics real life in a strange way, because the scariest part of loving someone is that they could leave you.

"We all have the capacity for both good and bad, and that is the scary thing when you get into a relationship with anyone ... you decide to trust in that and that it could fall apart at any moment."

In a now-deleted TikTok video, Ebbs explained they were broken up with after a long-haul flight to see Siwa.

When the news of the split broke, the comments got more intense and much louder.

Literally millions of people were engaged in conversations about the breakup and whether Hughes – who is now in a relationship with Siwa – had played a part in it.

It also opened Ebbs up to a level of online hate they haven't experienced before.

"[The breakup] unfortunately left the four walls of the people who know me and have consumed my content online and know who I am," Ebbs said.

"That just brought in a level of homophobia, trolling and nastiness that made going through a breakup harder, because I was dealing with strangers criticising me whilst I was just having a hard time.

"You can get 10 beautiful, supportive comments, then you get one person calling you the C-word and you listen to it.

"I think I found myself doing that a lot. It was truly horrible." 

The other aspect that made the breakup hard for Ebbs was being painfully aware of how public it was.

"I knew anything and everything I said was going to get picked apart," Ebbs said.

"There were times I was so angry about things that were being said, and the way things were being misconstrued, that I was so close ... to clicking that [record] button and saying what I was saying in my group chats with my friends.

"I knew it wasn't going to get me anywhere."

Breakups are an incredible time to learn about yourself, Ebbs said, and they learned a valuable lesson in the aftermath of theirs.

"Even though that person turned out not to be the person I thought they were, I was proud that I stood by my values of how I am as a person and as a partner and how I will show up for the people I care about until the end," they said.

"Just because [they] would treat someone that [they] apparently cared or care about like that, doesn't mean that I will.

"That's something that I never wanted to change within myself. I never want to become a jaded person."

One of the ways they decided to channel their emotions about the split was creatively.

Along with their ongoing love for line dancing, Ebbs decided to compile everything they've learned about breakups into a "pocket guide" in the form of a card deck called The Heartbreak Club.

Ebbs worked with Australian sexual wellness brand Normal and therapist G Spot to create the cards, which are designed to help someone through a breakup.

"The idea honestly came to me five years ago when I was going through a really bad breakup," they said.

"I didn't know what to do, I felt like I couldn't find any content online that wasn't just like positive affirmations, and especially not [any advice] from a queer person.

"I couldn't find what I was looking for online, so I created it... the deck is sort of like a section-by-section guide to putting those emotions in a healthy place." 

For anyone going through a break-up, Ebbs said the most important thing to remember is that "there is no f---ing timeline" to moving on.

"I remember in high school, everyone said, 'It takes half the time you were with someone to get over it'," Ebbs said.

"I remember that sticking in my mind, then when I went through my first breakup I got to the half-time point, and I was like, 'Oh my God, I'm screwed forever'.

"That's just something that we've been told ... grief does not work like that

"You can have a situationship that went for a month and you're still hung up on a year later or you can come out of a six-year relationship and a week later be like 'I'm done.'"

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Title: 'It was truly horrible': The breakup that blindsided Kath Ebbs, and how they've turned their heartbreak into help
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Published Date: Thu, 20 Nov 2025 21:11:00 GMT